We all love our kids and we always tell them that their ambitions should have no limits. However, when it comes to discipline, there needs to be limits in place so that our kids grow up to be well-mannered and are able to function well in the real world. Love has no limits, they say, but in order to love our children more, we need to establish rules and know when to draw a line in the sand. It’s important to address bad behaviour the moment it comes up and here are some steps to help you not spoil your kids.
1.Set Clear, Understandable, Simple Limits
It’s best to leave no room for ambiguity so that you don’t have to keep explaining yourself over and over again. Children interpret what you say in different ways, a lot of the time to suit themselves and so it is important that they understand exactly what you mean. If they ask for a glass of lemonade and your response is ‘OK, have a glass’ then some kids might interpret that as meaning if they ask again later, they might get another one. It is always best to say, ‘Yes, OK, but don’t ask me if you can have another one later.’ This way there is no confusion and a simple limit has been set. There are articles available online regarding setting limits for your child.
2.Stick To Your Limits
When you say something, stick to it. If you have told the child that one drink is all they are getting then stick to that. Children need consistency and flip flopping your decisions is not the way to teach them. If you give in just this time, then you are leaving yourself open to be second guessed again and again every time. Say what you mean and stick to it. Much like what the staff at the child care in Adelaide or in your local area teach them, your little ones need to be set boundaries in life.
3.Chores To Be Done Before There Is Fun
Children need to learn that there are rewards for doing something good. You also need to teach them how to handle their frustrations and to understand that you don’t just get something you want just because you want it. You need to work for things in life and it’s better to teach that lesson now while they are young. Sometimes, it’s difficult to get kids to do their chores, so check out articles online for additional advice.
If your kid asks you for something you are not really sure about, then ask them to justify why it is that you should give it to them. If your child responds by saying that they have done all their chores, cleaned their room and completed all their homework then this is reason enough to say yes. Always try to reward hard work.
You should never be afraid to disappoint your kids when it comes to their discipline. Accepting disappointment helps kids deal with emotional stress in their lives later. Get them to work for what they want and introduce some kind of reward system.
Amila Gamage Wickramarachchi is the founder of this blog where she shares her parenting and lifestyle experiences. She is an engineer and a trainer who works in the construction industry. She is the founder of Sihela Consultants.(www.sihelaconsultants.com)